When you’re in your 40s, dating can be a little bit tricky to navigate. Many of us are getting back into the dating scene after taking a break (or yes, even going through a divorce) and aren’t used to the rules and subtle etiquette that goes along with meeting and getting to know people. And when you’re older there are different things to consider that just don’t come up for younger people—when to bring up finances, how much importance to put on physical chemistry, or whether or not you should give someone a chance even if they don’t check off all your boxes.

In order to help you out, I outlined a few of the do’s and don’ts of dating in your 40s that you may not have thought of—the little things that go a long way towards changing your experience and helping you find that one person who just may be the perfect fit for you.