If you’re still single over 40, it may be that you’re the best catch in the world and your time just hasn’t come yet. Or is it something deeper? As I speak to more people who are over 40 and single about their dating lives, I hear a lot of the same things—There’s no one good out there; No one has any morals anymore; No one has any respect for others; No one knows how to behave; No one knows how to have a conversation without being offensive; Where is that person who has the same standards as me? If all these people, male and female, are asking the same questions, why aren’t they finding each other? It’s like a dog running around in a circle trying to catch its tail.

There are so many ways to meet people in the 21st century. There are dating sites, matchmakers, social media, introductions, work/career, and clubs and restaurants to name a few. I know some of these sources are less than perfect, but they still offer ways to meet people in our fast-paced lives—And yet, there are so many people who are still 40 and single. Many have never married, are widows/widowers, or are divorced. But they are all looking for love. There have to be reasons why people reach 40 without meeting the one for them. Truth is, some people may be sabotaging themselves. Are you one of them?